Posts Tagged Relationship
Correct This Unseen Cause of Self-Punishment
Posted by davev in Start Thinking on November 18th, 2009
The first serving of any punishing wish or act towards another always goes to the one who dishes it out!
The Secret Teaching of the Ages
It is impossible to change the relationship that you have with the world around you without changing the relationship that you have in yourself, with yourself. Before you can become the kind of human being who never again hurts another — either in thought or deed — you must change the relationship you have with yourself.
This is the secret teaching of the ages. Inside of it, we learn about the necessity for a new kind of mind. We learn about the possibility of a world within ourselves that is presently guarded — not by something that is keeping us out because it is something so elevated, powerful, and high that there’s no way that we can scale it — but because we have yet to scale the depths of our own ignorance.
We refuse to understand the pain that our own ignorance causes. We refuse to recognize that it’s impossible for us to have the pain we have with other people without ourselves being a participant in it. Ultimately, we refuse the beautiful lessons that life brings to us, and instead of going through the transformation they are intended to produce for us, we become individuals who simply wrap ourselves deeper and deeper in the same nature that is the source of our suffering.
The new mind begins to discover that the reason that it continues to be a prisoner is because it continues to live from a prisoner mentality. A prisoner mentality is blaming anything outside of you for the pain you have. Was there a person who did something terrible? Yes. This planet is full of toxic, cruel human beings — victims themselves of a pain they can’t escape. Does that mean that you should spend your life running, hiding, resenting what was? That you should stay wrapped up in some kind of dark state because something in you revisits the past? No! Up to this moment, you haven’t known that the pain you feel isn’t because of what’s taking place in the present, but is born out of something inside of you that has become a prisoner of your own past.
Something in you calls up a person, or a condition outside of yourself that reminds you of a person, and at that moment, what happens? Something in you grabs onto whoever it was that you blame for your pain, and “bang” — bitterness, sorrow, regret, or rage results. You grant power to the nature that defeats you every time you think about what someone did or didn’t do.
There is freedom in realizing — seeing the truth of the fact — that whatever is holding you captive right now has no right to do so. None! The split second that you see you’re a captive of your own mind, you have the freedom to challenge it with the new understanding that belongs to your new, true mind — a mind that can’t be made a prisoner of anything.
Refuse to carry forward with you one more day any thought that tells you there is someone to be punished for the way you feel. Refuse to be made a subject of ignorance, to live in the darkness of days past, calling it the present moment because of how much pain there is in it. Your mind will begin to move in new ways because it is living in a broader world, and it is no longer a captive of its own past emotional content.
Enjoy Being Exactly Who You Are!
Posted by davev in Start Thinking on June 8th, 2009
What makes you a unique human being is found in your relationship with life — and not in the degree to which you struggle to get others to perceive you as being unique.
Allow Your Individuality to Blossom and Flourish
The chief cause of why our lives so often wind up in the hands of others is not that they are superior or that the world is too strong for us, but that we don’t want to face the uncertainty and aloneness we think we are too weak to bear.
The conscious refusal to go along with what your weakness wants you to do to escape its uncertainty is what invokes and finally delivers real inner confidence. This new kind of strength gradually becomes the cornerstone of a true individual existence — the life you’ve always wanted.
If you will stay in the middle of this struggle for true self-possession, not asserting your individuality but allowing it to blossom and to flourish — bearing what you must bear by refusing to submit yourself to negative, self-betraying influences — you will come to know the highest approval that life can award: reality itself will approve you.
And here’s one last thought to help you better see the need to have your own life! The more approval you get, the more you have to have.
Being Fearless, Fulfilled, and Free… Now!
Posted by davev in Start Thinking, Take Action on May 14th, 2009
When we know — deeply realize — that what we’re really looking for in this life is what we already are — and not what we may become — we stand on the threshold of a new order of being that is effortlessly fearless, fulfilled, and free.
Bright New Actions that Lead to the Fearless Life
Fear’s power over us is nothing more than the way it causes us to forget the truth of ourselves, which is this: we are created to eternally transcend the limits of our present nature, to transform who and what we have been in the very moment it ceases to serve the good of us. But, because we have forgotten this or — more accurately speaking — because we are asleep to its power in us, we are compelled to search for, find, and then believe in “powers” outside of ourselves that always betray us in our hour of need.
Actualizing our spiritual right to live without the frustration of fearful limitations is not a question of achieving something new; it begins with choosing to end a relationship with that which has never been true. So, it isn’t a question of “What do I do?” but “What must I bring an end to?” Hence, the Christ’s saying:
“Whoever shall lose his life shall gain it.”
Here for your study and consideration are two very common, but false beliefs about what one must do or be in order to transcend the limitations in his or her life. Study them closely. See how their unquestioned socially accepted convention serves to both frustrate and limit our natural right to be fearless. Also included with each example is a suggested new action whose purpose it is to help realize the limitless life of your True Self.
First of the fear-producing false beliefs: We must prepare — in advance — for everything that might happen to us.
The world we live in “tells” us it is wise to worry, to stress ourselves over every eventuality, regardless of personal cost to our health, family, or friends. But recall here Christ’s admonition: “Take no thought for the morrow.” The truth is, the more we prepare to be fearless, the more afraid we become! Here’s the new action to find the fearless life: Meet every moment awake to what it wants to give to us: a life essentially limitless in its newness. At the same time, detect and reject any fearful imagining about what might be lost should we step into the unknown moment before us.
Second of the fear-producing false beliefs: Before we can make those real changes in our lives, the ones that will bring us the freedom we seek, we must first secure the approval of others for our actions.
Most of us don’t realize how dependent we are on the approval of others, and how we weigh our life choices on scales that not only belong to others, but that are broken as well. Here’s the new liberating action: Deliberately release any thought or feeling that would have us believe the freedom that we long for can be found by wearing the yoke of popular opinion.
Here is one last encouraging, fear-busting fact and the bright action it helps to inspire. The source of our True Self is love-in-action. And since love transforms whatever it touches, any limitation can be transcended given our willingness to test this last truth: our True Self is created to neither serve, nor believe in anything other than the living Light that is fearlessness itself. Prove this truth to yourself, and you will know its powers.
